Anna holds a MABC from the Master’s University and is ACBC certified. She lives with her husband in San Diego, California, where she writes, counsels, and hurtles off to the coastline at least twice a week.
為教會對你的傷害寫哀歌
張逸萍譯自﹕“Lamenting Your Church Hurt”By: Darby Strickland, October 27, 2021
(https://www.biblicalcounselingcoalition.org/2021/10/27/lamenting-your-church-hurt/)
Darby Strickland
Darby Strickland is a counselor and faculty member for the Christian Counseling & Education Foundation. She is the author of Is it Abuse? A Biblical Guide to Identifying Domestic Abuse and Helping Victims. She is also a contributor to the free web-based training curriculum Becoming a Church that Cares Well for the Abused. Darby has a Master of Divinity degree in Counseling from Westminster Theological Seminary, where she currently teaches a course on counseling people in abusive marriages. She and her husband, John, have taken great delight in homeschooling their three children.
為什麼我對“教會傷害”的感覺總不消失?
張逸萍譯自﹕“Why Won’t My Feelings of Church Hurt Go Away?” By: Nate Brooks, October 28, 2021
當我們聽到“創傷”這個詞時,我們通常會想到一些在諮詢領域被歸類為“大 T 創傷”(Big-T Trauma)的事情。 “大 T 創傷”描述可能降臨在人們身上的災難性事件,這種事件涉及身體傷害或死亡的嚴重威脅。性侵犯、持槍搶劫、家庭暴力——這些都是創傷的例子。雖然教會傷害當然可能是這種創傷,例如屬靈領袖的性侵略,但教會傷害通常不屬於這類創傷。
然而,還有另一種創傷,目前被描述為“小 t 創傷”(little-t trauma)。“小 t 創傷”是指不危及生命或暴力的,但包括經歷其他類型的虐待模式和行為。人際衝突、謊言和操縱、精神虐待和排斥,都會在人體內產生創傷反應,這些反應通常反映創傷(大-T)的影響,尤其是當一個人長時間忍受此類苦惱時。[23]
我經常和我的受輔導者一起使用的一個比喻,就是汽車正面撞上一輛半卡車,和慢慢被輻射中毒之間的區別。這兩樣事情都能殺死你,但他們會以非常不同的方式做到這一點。 “大 T 創傷”是猛烈而突然的,但“小t 創傷”通常會在你醒來之前不為人知,直到你醒來時病得很重。我們談論對教會忠誠的方式,通常讓遭受教會傷害的人吸收了高水平的輻射。教會成員資格、教會聖約、教會領袖的權威,以及關於委身於教會的教導,都是美好的、合乎聖經的。但是這些教義很容易被利用來將人們鎖定在有害的教會環境中。關於加入教會就像進入婚姻盟約的文章,比比皆是;但很少有談論如何因為避免陷入異端或道德混亂,而選擇退出教會。
那我該怎麼辦?
如果你或你所服事的人因在教會受到“小 t 創傷”而感到噁心,那麼自然的問題是,“現在怎麼辦?” 我向那些我所服侍的,那些感覺痛苦不會消失的人,強調幾個關鍵主題:
醫治的這四個方面,並非在上帝、教會或人際關係中恢復喜樂的快速解決法。但它們確實能引導我們走上了漫長而曲折的恢復之路。我最喜歡的一本關於苦難的書,格雷格·哈里斯 (Greg Harris) 的《杯與榮耀》(The Cup and the Glory),以遭受教會傷害後的生活作美麗的比喻為結束。在穿過他任教的神學院校園時,哈里斯看見被連根拔起的 100 年老橡樹的景象,為之哀悼。這些橡樹幾天前被一場雷鳴般的風暴摧毀。當他為再也見不到它們的美麗而悲痛時,他注意到自己的視野中的縫隙現在充滿了夕陽的燦爛光芒。在他的餘生中,樹木將永遠不會再生存於那個空間;但取而代之的是新的美麗。教會的傷害也是如此。情景可能再也不會完全一樣了。但是上帝的良善和恩典有新的光芒,可愉悅我們的眼睛,並溫暖我們的皮膚。[26]
Nate Brooks (Ph.D.) serves as the Assistant Professor of Christian Counseling at the Charlotte campus of Reformed Theological Seminary. Nate, his wife Kate, and their children live on their mini-farm in Rock Hill, South Carolina, raise meat rabbits, and attend Lake Wylie Baptist Church.
避免“無限制的同情”:在教會受傷後重新參與教會
張逸萍翻譯自﹕“Avoiding “Untethered Compassion”: Re-Engaging in Church After Church Hurt”By: Greg Gifford, October 29, 2021 (https://www.biblicalcounselingcoalition.org/2021/10/29/avoiding-untethered-compassion-re-engaging-in-church-after-church-hurts/)
Dr. Greg E. Gifford is Assistant Professor of Biblical Counseling at The Master’s University. He earned his Ph.D. in Biblical Counseling from Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary, a MABC from The Master’s University, and a B.A. in Pastoral Ministry from Baptist Bible College. He has worked as both a full-time biblical counselor and associate pastor before joining the TMU faculty and has counseled in both non-profit and local church settings. Greg also served as a Captain in the United States Army from 2008-2012 after which he transitioned to counseling ministry. His research interests are the influencing role of habits to desires and also Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. His book, Helping Your Family through PTSD (Wipf and Stock), was released in August of 2017. He is a certified counselor with the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors (ACBC), associate pastor of counseling, and a student member of the Evangelical Theological Society.
[2] Imagery of spiritual abuse as spiritual self-injury to Christ’s Body taken from Dr. Diane Langberg, In Our Lives First: Meditations for Counselors (Jenkintown, PA: Diane Langberg, PhD & Associates, 2014), 123-125.
[6] Dr. Lisa Oakley and Justin Humphreys, Escaping the Maze of Spiritual Abuse: Creating healthy Christian cultures, as quoted by Scot McKnight, Kingdom Roots Podcast, “Questions on Spiritual Abuse (Part 1) KR 169”, https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/kingdom-roots-with-scot-mcknight/id1078739516?i=1000509640543, published February 7, 2021, accessed September 17, 2021.
[8]傑基·希爾·佩里 (Jackie Hill Perry)講到她所發現的不安全的教會文化,非常有用。她問:“當 [領袖] 面對罪惡時,他們是否悔改?或者他們是否巧妙地處理你的話,讓你認為你面質他們的事情,是犯罪的,而且得罪了他們的?” Jackie Hill Perry, “Let’s Talk: Overcoming Church Hurt” Podcast, with Jasmine Holmes and Melissa Kruger, The Gospel Coalition, https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/podcasts/lets-talk-podcast/lets-talk-overcoming-church-hurt/, published June 26, 2020, accessed August 27, 2021.
[9] Nycole DeLaVara, biblical counselor and Christian life coach, in conversation.
[10] Tim Mackie, “1. A Life of Learning – Why Church Matters” The Bible Project, Tim Mackie Archives, https://youtu.be/i8GnH_Fax7w, accessed September 17, 2021.
[16]作者在這裡談到了神職人員性虐待的特殊損害,但後果同樣適用於多種類型的神職人員虐待。See Ruth Everhart, The #MeToo Reckoning: Facing the Church’s Complicity in Sexual Abuse and Misconduct (Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity Press, 2020), 157.
[17] Rebecca Davis, Untwisting Scriptures that were used to tie you up, gag you, and tangle your mind: Book 2 Patriarchy and Authority (Greenville, SC: Pennycress Publishing, 2021), 163.
[18] Diane Langberg, Redeeming Power: Understanding Authority and Abuse in the Church (Grand Rapids, MI: Brazos Press, 2020), 174, 177.
[19] Sally Lloyd-Jones, illus. by Jago, The Jesus Storybook Bible: Every story whispers His name (Grand Rapids, MI: Zonderkidz, 2007), 329.
[20] Kathleen Norris, The Quotidian Mysteries: Laundry, Liturgy, and Women’s Work (The Pauline Press, 1998), 77-78.
[21] Emily Dickinson, “The Mystery of Pain,” The Collected Poems of Emily Dickinson (Digireads.com Publishing, 2018), 15.
[22] C.S. Lewis, The Complete Chronicles of Narnia, The Last Battle (New York, NY: HarperCollins Publishers, 1998, orig. 1956), 520.
[26] Greg Harris, The Cup and the Glory: Lessons on Suffering and the Glory of God, (The Woodlands, TX: Kress Christian Publications, 2006).
[27] Kevin DeYoung, “What Does it Mean to Weep with Those Who Weep?” The Gospel Coalition, September 13, 2021, https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/kevin-deyoung/what-does-it-mean-to-weep-with-those-who-weep/.