這是 Grace and Truth Blog 的關與自慰的迷你係列,討論了﹕
(1)Deepak Reju 回答了關於自慰的四個常見問題。
(2)Jonathan Holmes 解決了我們關於自慰問題的建議中的三個常見失敗。
(3)Michael Leister解釋了由於自慰是一種敬拜障礙,可持續的轉變在於敬拜的改變。
(4)Brady Goodwin分享了兩個聖經原則: 幫助輔導那些與手淫作鬥爭的人。
自慰、性與上帝的榮耀
張逸萍譯自﹕“Masturbation, Sexuality, and the Glory of God” By: Deepak Reju, July 18, 2022
(https://www.biblicalcounselingcoalition.org/2022/07/18/masturbation-sexuality-and-the-glory-of-god/)
Deepak serves as the Pastor of Biblical Counseling and Families at Capitol Hill Baptist Church in Washington, DC. Deepak does individual and couples counseling, leads groups, develops the vision for the counseling ministry, and supervises the counseling team. He did his theological training at The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary (M.Div., Ph.D.). Deepak and his wife, Sarah, have been married since 2001 and have five children. He is the author of On Guard: Preventing and Responding to Child Abuse at Church, The Pastor and Counseling: The Basics of Shepherding Members in Need, She’s Got the Wrong Guy: Why Smart Women Settle, and Pornography: Fighting for Purity.
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我們在談論自慰一事中,犯了什麼錯誤?
張逸萍譯自﹕“What Do We Get Wrong in the Conversation on Masturbation?”By: Jonathan Holmes, July 20, 2022
(https://www.biblicalcounselingcoalition.org/2022/07/20/what-do-we-get-wrong-in-the-conversation-on-masturbation/ )
Jonathan serves as the Counseling Pastor at Parkside Church in Cleveland, OH and the Founder and Executive Director of Fieldstone Counseling. Jonathan graduated from The Master’s University with degrees in Biblical Counseling and History and holds an M.A. from Trinity Evangelical Divinity School. He is the author of The Company We Keep and Counsel for Couples. He and his wife, Jennifer, have four daughters, Ava, Riley, Ruby, and Emma.
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自慰是一種崇拜障礙
張逸萍譯自﹕“Masturbation Is a Worship Disorder” By: Michael Leister July 21, 2022
(https://www.biblicalcounselingcoalition.org/2022/07/21/masturbation-is-a-worship-disorder/ )
沒有好的診斷就沒有好的治療
想像一下,您因為右下腹疼痛而去看醫生。醫生把你放在他的桌子上,從頭到腳檢查了一遍,按著你的小腹,疼得你差點從桌子上跳下來。完成檢查後,他說:“診斷很明確——香港腳!” 很明顯,好的治療需要準確的診斷。當談到自慰和經常伴隨的色情刊物時,我們通常所作出的診斷,雖然從根本上來說並沒有錯,但並不充分。很多時候,這導致我們只關注“邦迪創可貼”(band-aids)——比如使用過濾軟件、砥礪夥伴(accountability partners)、“我與眼睛立約”(covenant with the eyes)等。這些措施本身是好的和重要的,但如果我們不了解問題的核心,它們是不夠的。
Michael serves as pastor-elder at NordRhön Bible Church in Hünfeld/Germany and as professor for Biblical Counseling at EBTC European Bible Training Center in Berlin, Rheinland and Zürich. He is a board member of NBS Network for Biblical Soul care and of KfG Konferenz für Gemeindegründung in Germany, a network of about 400 independent Bible-believing churches. He attended a Torchbearer Bible School in Canada and studied Biblical Counseling under Wayne Mack in South Africa as well as at the Master’s University in Santa Clarita, CA.
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自慰與孤獨之心的挫折
張逸萍譯自﹕“Masturbation and the Frustrations of a Lonely Heart”By: Brady Goodwin, July 22, 2022
(https://www.biblicalcounselingcoalition.org/2022/07/22/masturbation-and-the-frustrations-of-a-lonely-heart )
Brady Goodwin serves as Pastor of Training at Northway Church in Dallas, Texas. He also counsels at Restore Christian Counseling, a local biblical counseling center in Dallas-Fort Worth. Brady is a graduate of Dallas Theological Seminary (ThM) and The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary (DMin, Biblical Counseling). He is a certified member of the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors. Brady lives in Dallas, Texas, with his wife, Aimee, and their three children.
[1] 你不能藉著脫光衣服和配偶發生性關係來解決你的婚姻問題。那不會使婚姻問題消失。相反,你必須開口與你的配偶溝通。“和解性行為”只是反映了婚姻衝突得解決。[2] 若不能有陰道性交的婚姻做愛下,丈夫或妻子可能有一個辦法,可以幫助他們的配偶達到性高潮。例如,如果妻子在一段時間內無法進行陰道性交,她可以通過一些其他的性親密行為來刺激丈夫達到性高潮。因此,當我在這篇博文中談到自慰時,我稱之為“獨自的性”,因為它指的是沒有配偶的獨立性行為。[3] Sam Allberry, “Where to find hope and help amid the sexual revolution,” November 5, 2018, The Gospel Coalition, https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/article/hope-help-sexual-revolution/, Accessed 8 June 2022.[4] 我並不是說,輔導員不應該使用聖經或訴諸聖經,只是要觀察到許多人,他們不再根據聖經做出道德決定。[5] Edward T. Welch, Addictions: A Banquet in the Grave, (Phillipsburg, NJ: P&R Publishing, 2001).